a soft touch
a gentle nudge
a simple word
a loving glance

is all it takes
often
to make space
for grace

nothing much
no elaborate effort
no major tsunami

lives can shift
relationships can blossom
careers can take flight
abundance can smile
health can radiate

all it takes
is a gentle nudge
a soft word
a simple touch
a loving look

its not about time
not even perhaps space
it may require tho’
a slower pace
just a wee bit slower
making space

to pause
to listen to the whisper,
to the song
of your heart
or
of an other

k/5may10/kpg

This was written before the last post – ‘of tsunamis and gentle nudges’ – I have seen and also often been told that one of my gifts is gentleness and while that’s mostly true, what is also true is that sometimes the gentleness masks an aggression which peeps out. I am becoming aware of this and coming to terms with it. So that I can live more authentically and in integrity.

What is also interesting is that there have been some occasions when this aggression has got expressed lovingly.. and it has shifted people’s lives! Especially because they didn’t expect it from me! It is generally good to be conscious of being ‘caught’ in a pattern – in this case, of gentleness.

A dear friend told me his career shifted in the moment I told him, ‘What the #”@* are you doing with your life?’ with an intensity that he had not normally seen in me.  And i had for years been ‘gently’ telling him to shift 😉 Another friend who was in ‘tao of facilitation’ said, that at one point when she was going on and on, suddenly, with a uncommon force I said, ‘STOP!’ It worked like a Zen stick and from that moment onwards, the need to prove herself has dropped.

Obviously these moments cannot be ‘done’ anymore than they ‘happen’. And hence it would be unwise to take any credit for it. When grace chooses, it uses us in moments like these. The more we can be available and allow that to flow, one life touches another. Its precious to observe this. And play with being ‘unKiran’ (not deliberately, but consciously). I was advised to be ‘unKiran’ on two occasions by some close friends 😉  – else the tired stereotype clouds the authentic flow of the moment.