A little while back, I was in a conversation with my dear friends GD and NithyaShanti. GD taught us a new powerful healing method, ‘Matrix Energetics’. And after it had touched us in powerful ways.. he asked us an important question.. What would it mean to live in a place that is beyond polarities vs being caught in more and more heady ‘experiences’? Like the popular Rumi line.. ‘There is a place beyond right doing and wrong doing. I will meet you there’

I was grappling with this whole notion of abundance. And GD said.. what would it be like if you could see that abundance presupposes a poverty. And we are then still locked in duality. vs. being where we are. This beautiful piece of Meher Baba had touched a very deep place inside me a while back! And I thought I must share it here.

The Lover and the Beloved

God is Love. And Love must love. And to love there must be a Beloved. But since God is Existence infinite and eternal there is no one for Him to love but Himself. And in order to love Himself He must imagine Himself as the Beloved whom He as the Lover imagines He loves.

Beloved and Lover implies separation. And separation creates longing; and longing causes search. And the wider and the more intense the search the greater the separation and the more terrible the longing.

When longing is most intense separation is complete, and the purpose of separation, which was that Love might experience itself as Lover and Beloved, is fulfilled; and union follows. And when union is attained, the Lover knows that he himself was all along the Beloved whom he loved and desired union with; and that all the impossible situations that he overcame were obstacles which he himself had placed in the path to himself.

To attain union is so impossibly difficult because it is impossible to become what you already are! Union is nothing other than knowledge of oneself as the Only One.

– Meher baba

Some may find this a bit ‘lofty’. Some may be touched. In a very practical way, it may be worthwhile examining that whenever we experience an emotion- a high or a low, an ebb or a flow.. to notice the other side that is always there. We experience only one side because we don’t see the other side. Seeing both has enabled me to then slip into a space that holds these two.  Good ole Kahlil Gibran says, ‘Only to the extent that you allow pain to carve into your being can you contain joy’ It emerged in the chat between Nithya, GD and me.. that the essential duality is me and you. The lover and the beloved. The giver and the receiver. And so may people focus on ‘giving’ without fully seeing that one cannot exist without the other. And many on the ‘positive’ to the exclusion of the ‘negative’ .. until they meet life and make friends with reality.