Pain or pleasure.. Lover and Beloved

A little while back, I was in a conversation with my dear friends GD and NithyaShanti. GD taught us a new powerful healing method, ‘Matrix Energetics’. And after it had touched us in powerful ways.. he asked us an important question.. What would it mean to live in a place that is beyond polarities vs being caught in more and more heady ‘experiences’? Like the popular Rumi line.. ‘There is a place beyond right doing and wrong doing. I will meet you there’

I was grappling with this whole notion of abundance. And GD said.. what would it be like if you could see that abundance presupposes a poverty. And we are then still locked in duality. vs. being where we are. This beautiful piece of Meher Baba had touched a very deep place inside me a while back! And I thought I must share it here.

The Lover and the Beloved

God is Love. And Love must love. And to love there must be a Beloved. But since God is Existence infinite and eternal there is no one for Him to love but Himself. And in order to love Himself He must imagine Himself as the Beloved whom He as the Lover imagines He loves.

Beloved and Lover implies separation. And separation creates longing; and longing causes search. And the wider and the more intense the search the greater the separation and the more terrible the longing.

When longing is most intense separation is complete, and the purpose of separation, which was that Love might experience itself as Lover and Beloved, is fulfilled; and union follows. And when union is attained, the Lover knows that he himself was all along the Beloved whom he loved and desired union with; and that all the impossible situations that he overcame were obstacles which he himself had placed in the path to himself.

To attain union is so impossibly difficult because it is impossible to become what you already are! Union is nothing other than knowledge of oneself as the Only One.

– Meher baba

Some may find this a bit ‘lofty’. Some may be touched. In a very practical way, it may be worthwhile examining that whenever we experience an emotion- a high or a low, an ebb or a flow.. to notice the other side that is always there. We experience only one side because we don’t see the other side. Seeing both has enabled me to then slip into a space that holds these two.  Good ole Kahlil Gibran says, ‘Only to the extent that you allow pain to carve into your being can you contain joy’ It emerged in the chat between Nithya, GD and me.. that the essential duality is me and you. The lover and the beloved. The giver and the receiver. And so may people focus on ‘giving’ without fully seeing that one cannot exist without the other. And many on the ‘positive’ to the exclusion of the ‘negative’ .. until they meet life and make friends with reality.

6 thoughts on “Pain or pleasure.. Lover and Beloved

  1. Thanks for sharing…lovely to see this revealing of the K-Gul….terrific

    Actually this is the real thing — Love that doesn’t invade or avoid suffering…..the isness and suchness of our daily living — receiving and giving….all the time….

  2. both the polarities are just stories…
    and the fact that we are always hypnotised by one or the other
    keeps us in the ‘maya’.
    Thanks kiran, for putting the essence of our conversation in words 🙂
    keep up the blogging!

    1. thanks to you GD. you are one person who has been responsible for healing the writer in me!
      and the facilitator.. and the human being 😉

      I still remember a message from you which said lovingly..
      ‘I am waiting for the writer in you to come blasting forth..’

      And maybe that day is not far.

  3. Beautiful Are we all not like musk deers chasing the fragrance which is infact inside us.But in reality having been endowed with human consciousness is it not our job to fulfil the purpose of our roles.We are characters in the divine drama and we have to play our part till we understand everything and everyone is Rama ! Thanks for the blog.Kiran

  4. The lover, out of boundless love
    takes the form of the Beloved.
    What Beauty!
    Both are made of the same nectar
    and share the same food.

    Out of the Supreme Love
    they swallow each other up.
    But separate again for the joy of being two. . . .

    The entire universe
    is too small to contain them.
    Yet they live happily
    in the tiniest particle.

    Jnaneshwar, Nectar of Self-Awareness

    Posted by Avi Das on fb on Aug 9, 2013 with a lovely artwork..
    Once when I had shared the Lover and Beloved piece he had resisted it..
    We all come a full circle.

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