I have been experimenting a fair bit with gifting of late..
This is an interesting exchange in a very dear group- ChittSangh.. which may connect with some chord in your heart. I wrote this to the Sanghis this morning..
I have a wish to gift each of you who are willing to receive something this week.. it could be material.. or not so material.. Some wise soul said, what truly counts, cannot be counted. This gifting will go beyond my week.. but can begin now!
Would be happy if you could sense alone/ together with me what this gift could be..
eg. It could be as simple as a conversation in which we “learn n coach together” … simply flow.. like Nilima has said with our 1.6 and 2.0’s .. and see what life has to bring/ offer to this togetherness.. (1.6 is a version of us that is fragmented, struggling, fearful, human, defensive, competitive.. and 2.0 is who we are when we flow and see that all is one. There is love and spontaneous co-creation)
I believe that each togetherness has a magnificence waiting, to not only be discovered, but constantly celebrated, deepened and lived. And we live only a fraction of that magnificence, truly.
Any takers for this experiment of gifting… at the expense of being laughed at again.. Arjun calls me the wise fool on the hill.. can I call it ‘co-gifting’, perhaps.
A Sanghi: “Is it a gift you are offering or is it a gift you wish to receive?”
Me: “Beautiful question, my friend, which takes us back into the Paradox of living, loving and indeed gifting.. And I will quote what you wrote to me in response to the CB exchange:
“What you(kiran) said in ur mail, ‘paradox is when the mind cannot wrap itself around it’ was a big aha. Paradoxes then are doorways where, whilst the mind is grappling to be comfortable, the heart/soul can tip toe in. How wonderful. Thank you’
Now lets see right here.. was this a gift I gave you or you gave me? Or something that we both received.. when the duality of you and I dissolved?
So, I am offering and also requesting… hope I have been able to articulate something that is not easy to express.
Lets let the heart tip toe in ;-)”
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And this from a related exchange on fb- speaking to this same ‘seeing’ . A friend had thanked another friend.. who had appreciated her poem which ended with
“Let us pretend in this game; for a while
That there is a ‘me’. And that there is a ‘you’.”
What I said was:
“To say thank you.. we must believe pretend that there is a me and a you! So long as we know we are pretending.. its cool.”
I humbly feel any gift given is also a gift received. You’ve made me realise this by making me go thru’ Freedom from the Known which helps me constantly connect with the deeper and secluded corners of consciousness .
The best piece on Giving I have seen is Kahlil’s :
“There are those who give little of the much which they have–and they give it for recognition and their hidden desire makes their gifts unwholesome.
And there are those who have little and give it all.
These are the believers in life and the bounty of life, and their coffer is never empty.
There are those who give with joy, and that joy is their reward.
And there are those who give with pain, and that pain is their baptism.
And there are those who give and know not pain in giving, nor do they seek joy, nor give with mindfulness of virtue;
They give as in yonder valley the myrtle breathes its fragrance into space.
Through the hands of such as these God speaks, and from behind their eyes He smiles upon the earth.”
The rest of it is here: