Profound Detachment is Playful Engagement

I am discovering interesting nuances of detachment & detached engagement. Yesterday I was in a spontaneous conversation with my aunt. Which turned out to be beautiful. I was happy to hear her share that after going to her guru who teaches using the Bhagvad Gita, she was feeling a huge shift due to her ability be detached. She used to worry a lot about near and dear ones. She said now whenever the thought comes, she prays & lets go. Expectations, desire for a certain intimacy, etc. are not there. And naturally there is a peace now, that was missing. … Continue reading Profound Detachment is Playful Engagement

Seeing & Being Real vs. “Positifying” or “Negatifying” what Is.

There is a tendency in us humans to either decorate/ beautify (“positivify”) or judge/ catasptrophise (“negatify”) reality – or justify what fragment we see – we do this to protect ourselves or some belief structure out of some fear – and hence miss out seeing the simple kindness of Reality. Even the inherent wisdom in what is. To be able to see what is, simply, nakedly, totally, is rare. And perhaps the only place of power and resourcefulness – indeed the only place of love is when we see what is. Just as it is. When we make friends with … Continue reading Seeing & Being Real vs. “Positifying” or “Negatifying” what Is.

Design when Change difficult

“Don’t change. Change is impossible, and even if it were possible, it is undesirable. Stay as you are. Love yourself as you are. And change, if it is at all possible, will take place by itself when and if it wants. Leave yourself alone. The only growth-promoting change is that which comes from self-acceptance.” –Anthony de Mello Summary: This blog post is about relaxing the obsession with changing oneself or another, which consumes and drains so much of human energy. And instead, designing, creating conditions, tending to the soil in which flowering can happen. This is often more effective. To … Continue reading Design when Change difficult

Radical Coaching… the art of learning together as friends

There have been a number of coincidences which are clarifying for me what is life is inviting me into. Almost seducing me into. 😉 At least 6 to 7 specific signs – all in the space of a month. The session with the Association of Mumbai Coaches was intriguing. I never cease to be amazed by how and how much silence opens up the unknown, an intimacy with what is-  and our ability to see that which is obvious, yet hidden. It slows us down. One of the participants at the end said it was a meditative experience. And I … Continue reading Radical Coaching… the art of learning together as friends

Paradoxes & Edges in Coaching

I have been coaching people and developing facilitators & leaders for the last 20+ years. In formal and informal ways. There are real questions that are alive in my heart. And how challenging can paradoxes be for many of us- until we see that they can be delicious. I love to explore the edges because they take me into the unknown which has a freshness. Let me pose some questions for you, dear reader, to reflect on. This post is coming into being as I have been invited by the Association of Mumbai Coaches (AMC) to conduct a session – … Continue reading Paradoxes & Edges in Coaching

The Tao Programs- Our Ordinary & Sacred Journeys

More than 20 years back  (in Aug 1996) I took the plunge from the Corporate world into the world of Human Potential, Learning, Leadership, Consciousness, and more – out of a single insight- we live such a small fraction of the life that we are given. I was reading Autobiography of  a Yogi – Paramhansa Yogananda – the book which was more recently gifted to everyone who came To Steve Jobs funeral. Went through a series of experiences including having the Bach Flower remedy Wild oat which clarifies one’s purpose. I must also thank Naresh Purushottam and the Bullet Proof … Continue reading The Tao Programs- Our Ordinary & Sacred Journeys