There have been a number of coincidences which are clarifying for me what is life is inviting me into. At least 6 to 7 specific signs – all in the space of a month. The session with the Association of Mumbai Coaches was intriguing. I never cease to be amazed by how and how much silence opens up the unknown, an intimacy with what is- and our ability to see that which is obvious, yet hidden. It slows us down. One of the participants at the end said it was a meditative experience. And I realised, yes, it was a … Continue reading Radical Coaching… the art of learning together as friends
Some of us friends are trying to build a community near Bhopal. At a place called Barkheda Bazyafat. And there is this classic conflict of .. Lets not talk, lets take action. “Action speaks louder than words.” “It’s good not to verbalise” etc. Any ‘idea’ which is held on to .. becomes stale and is always incomplete. The truth of any idea can be grasped only by embracing the paradox. eg. Unless we end the separation between words and actions, between thought and intuition, between doing and being.. the conflict will thrive. This podcast of a beautiful conversation with Rajesh … Continue reading Do Actions Speak louder than Words? : Conversations with Rajesh Dalal
Yesterday I spent a day with a person who has been seen and labeled as difficult, angry, destructive and insensitive. I was not sure what would happen. I did not go with any fancy expectations. I just entered the day with him with a simplicity and a willingness to just stay with whatever happens.. To learn, to listen. To share from the heart. Just walk together as friends. At first, I found he had a lot to share. He kept belittling ‘words’ and ‘talk’ as empty and useless. And yet he kept talking a lot. I think he must have … Continue reading When the power of love meets the love of power…
Sexuality and Sensuality, the power of touch and human physical contact is mired in deep conditioning and taboos. Here is a great potential to heal humanity and each of us… should we be willing to simply look at our conditioning and create safe spaces for conversation and exploration as have always been there in ancient and conscious tribes. I came across a beautiful book, ‘Sex at Dawn’ which looks at this whole domain of human sexuality. My one-liner about the book is: How might we live healthier & wiser lives… and create vibrant relationships and access true love… by appreciating … Continue reading Sexuality and the human condition: Safety & Love through simple & difficult conversations
Often I have had conversations in the last year or more with young friends struggling with the whole issue of ‘marriage’ and love. I see many unmarried youngsters grappling with it today (thankfully!). It is a big question. And needs careful attention. A related question which is more fundamental is about relationships. Is that not the central thing that we all grapple with- relationship with each other, and relationship with a lot else – money and sex being the two in which we humans are the most confused. And then of course the relationship with all that is ‘material’ – … Continue reading Love – Friendship, Marriage, Commitment and beyond
I do my best to be a learner, a facilitator, a friend, a father, and until some time back, a husband, a son and more. I have experienced the high and low of emotions- lots of sadness, fear, sometimes anger, sexual feelings, happiness and more. And continue to, maybe in subtler ways and sometimes quite gross also. I meet many young people who are contemplating marriage and grappling with relationships- which many of us “relatively grown up” folks also do! As the whole institution is getting shaken up, life is inviting us to examine this vital question: What is love? … Continue reading What Is Love?
– Is it possible to move from Conflict to Collaboration, conflict that inevitably happens between two or more people in a close relationship (personal or professional, family, business or community)? – Can a community that is grappling with purpose and being conscious, benefit from turning around the projections of ‘problems’ from outside to inside? – Is there a gentle, even playful way to embrace our shadows without making it painful and arduous task to build a conscious collective? Someone said that truth must be delivered with laughter for it to be palatable. All truth must make us lighter.. In Hebrew, … Continue reading The gentle Power of ‘The Work’ … to evoke play 😉 – Inspired by Byron Katie